The word "Love"....

Girl :
Is the word "love" important?
I don't know but for me, you are more important.
Do you know why?
Because how can I say "I love you" if you're not here.

Boy :
the word "love" is unimportant, it's the feeling of love for and from someone that matters

MEN -- STAND UP for yourselves!!!

If you're one of those men who asks yourself what you did wrong everyday resulting to you feeling disrespected, misunderstood, confused. Well maybe this blog would answer some of your questions. I am not a professional, of course...and I am not old and wise..of course..and you may decide that reading this is a waste of time. However, what I write here is my honest opinion.

I want to start by saying, I am not blaming or pointing finger at men. Nor do I have any intention of bashing you men. We women have our own faults too. I am just merely saying that men should stand up for themselves but at the same time..make sure its for the right reasons and not just because you're stubborn and you think you're right. I still hate you people's EGO!

Keep in mind that I'm not saying that the women is not wrong..but that is not the purpose of this blog for now. Anyway, at least from here you'd see why we keep our distance and why we think you're a jerk, asshole, rude, typical, without a backbone and the list goes on. If you think the men did nothing wrong, then you probably can stop reading now. You're obviously too stubborn to try to see what is going or went wrong.

Remember how you always give in to your gf/wife/partner? And remember no matter how much you sacrifice its never enough? Remember how she keep looking for more stuff to pick at? Remember how she is always telling you how you don't care? Remember how she tells you its not good enough?

I am sure most of you have done everything you could but its just SO hard to please her. Well, obviously she lost trust and respect in you as a person. Now why do you still hang in there and THEN complain about how she doesn't respect and understand you etc etc. If you once stop and think....if she's just being difficult...tell her she's being difficult. Be an adult about it, talk about it. Giving in and doing whatever she wants just makes her disrespect you more. WHY? because you don't have your own opinion. You just doing what she does and what she wants! If you willingly decided that's what you want, then don't complain about it. If you complain about it, it means you're not willing. And IF you're not willing, standing up for your right will actually make her respect and understand you even more. If she doesn't give in to you and went on about how you don't love her enough to give in...try using the same line on her and see how she react! She would fight you to no end to get her way. And when she couldn't, she'd leave you. That is the extent of love she has for you. Do you think she honestly love you if all she wants is her way and nothing else? It is obvious that she loves herself more than anything. And if you love such a self centered woman, and maybe to the extent to losing yourself..do you honestly think the rest of the world is going to respect you for it? NO! When that happens, gradually your gf/wife/partner would lose her respect for you too. Probably about that time you'd start question yourself what you did wrong in the first place.

As much as we love romance, we actually want some realism in it. We are not 8 years old anymore and we SHOULD be mature enough to know that happily ever after is HARD WORK. If you're the type of men that goes overboard with it. We would get signals that you're not real, you're just "doing it". And everytime you do something we'd think of you doing it for other too. We want you to do something for us..but we don't want it overboard. Because if you go overboard, that would be trying too hard and that would push us away even further. That is the "normal" reaction from women. But there ARE some women that finds it entertaining to see how far MEN would go for them. So women gives men almost impossible task just for the fun of it. I never really understood why MEN make a FOOL out of themselves like this. Don't you have your own self respect?

Have you stand up FOR(notice its no TO) your women when you find yourself hating that part of her personality? And then use "LOVE" as the reason? I am sure I would love my bf/husband/partner to do that. But guess what, I'd rather have him sticking to his own opinion. Why you ask? its because it's contradicting! When you contradict yourself, we lose trust in you! And when we lose trust, we feel insecure. And when we feel insecure we'd do this little things to try secure ourselves which usually at the end hurt us even more. We test you....trying to reassure ourselves. BUT as we test you, we'd twist and turn your words around...and I am sure that drives you crazy. And at the end of the day, both of you just suddenly aren't sure what is it you're fighting about. Now......why can't you be consistent? Love is blind? As much as we love to believe that, but we also know that as soon as you are not blinded, we'd become the problem. HENCE the stupid INSECURITY! So be yourself, hold on to your own opinion...don't stand up for her because its your gf/wife/partner that they are bullying. She would be upset, but being there to comfort her at times like this means a lot more than standing up for her. After she's comforted, then find a way to tell her why the people who is supposedly "being unkind" to her react that way. Explain slowly why she may have caused it. In the long run it would be better...because if she truly loves you, with you telling her NICELY and PROPERLY how she can become a better person, she WILL respect you and she will know your depth of love for her. Because you HELPED her become a better person! Most of us women want SUPPORT, and fighting other people because of her flaws and then tell her(quietly or not) that she's wrong after that don't sound like support to us. It sounds like you're fighting for us because you HAVE to.

How do you expect us women to respect you, if you don't have your own self respect! Men, please think things through before giving things or YOURSELVES up for the name of love.. Its really IS pathetic(I'm sorry but thats the cruel truth). It doesn't make us envy the women receiving your "affection", instead we only just feel sorry for you. Please stand up for yourself. Don't let the women insecurities and irrational demands rule you. Being a woman myself, I know the lines us woman say to "control" you like a puppet. And after she got bored, she may just throw you away with the reason "You don't understand me at all" or "You NEVER know what I want" and the list goes on. The reason I know it so well is because I am trying my hardest not to be a self centered controlling "BITCH".

For those out there who proudly wants to be a woman's puppet(in the name of love), I wish you good luck. She will NEVER be happy and you'll NEVER be good enough.

And of course, for those women who misuse the line "I do this because I LOVE YOU" for your own selfish purpose. I feel sorry for you, you'll never see the WONDERFUL man you've got.